A friend of mine said something that was funny at the moment, but the more I think about it, the more it is so true. She said when you lose a good friend, it feels as if you've broken up with a boyfriend/lover/spouse. How more true can that be? You feel hurt, angry, lost, lonely, and depressed at the same time. You think, " Did I do the right thing?" "Was I wrong?" "Should I Have thought it through more?" You loose sleep at night thinking about it. You Cry. Your heart hurts, and you think of ways to make it better.
Luckily, with my situation we were able to mend our friendship. And once again, it's like making up with that very same boyfriend/lover/spouse. The sigh of relief, not having to wonder if you will be able to talk to that person the next day. The admiration you feel for knowing that you were able to overcome whatever it was that was in your way. The joy of being able to laugh again with that person over some of the dumbest things. I guess the only difference is, you don't get to have that great make up sex that you have with your boyfriend/spouse/lover. Oh well ... You can't have it all.
Of Course as with any relationship that has been bruised, there is still a little of the awkwardness, and there will be a time period of getting to be able to trust each other as you once did, but you're so relieved to know that the friendship made it. And as time goes on, you will both mature, grow to learn more about each other, to accept each other for who they are, and to be prepared, because there will always be an obstacle, but now you know that you will be able to overcome them.
Its Amazing to me, how life works ... At the time that things happen, we hurt and ask why? But in the end, when we look back on situations you realize one thing... That you've learned from it...it has made you a better person.
On the other end of my life, I see the light of a friendship getting brighter and brighter and the days go by. It's like a seed that has been planted and as each day passes, as long as it's watered and receives the sunshine it so desperately needs, the seed will grow and eventually blossom into a beautiful flower, full of color and life.
About Me
- Julia M.
- Benson, Arizona, United States
- Well, let's see ... I love spending time with my family. I have a wonderful husband, Steven, A beautiful daughter, MariElena, and 2 great dogs named Nikko and Bella.
1 comment:
i said it! yeppers...that was me!
as i attempt to to type this comment w/my ever so swollen fingers...damn you o'charleys!...i say it was beautifully written! and it is so true.
but when the relationship ends you get to look back on your own weaknesses and learn from them to make you stronger. i think that confilcts are healthy for you b/c sometimes we need to be reminded that we are not perfect and we have issues we all need to work on. i embrace constructive criticisim. remember when i used to take things to heart so easily...well, that was a weakness of mine i have learned to kind of let go...i still get sensitive at times, but i have learned to listen and try to understand what is motivating that person to remark the way the have to me. are they saying it out of love and concern or just plain spitefulness.
i am sad to say that we had a 4 year gap between us...but at the same time i am happy that we are able to let all of that go and start fresh.
your points were good...and i think that as long as you and your friend continue to be honest w/one another and are able to work through any differences you two may have, your friendship is going to last and get stronger.
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