How people can think that they are better than someone because of skin color, is something that I can and will never understand. I think it is sad that in this day and age, people are still very closed minded in seeing people for who they are and not their skin color.
Because of this issue, I had to stop talking to someone that I thought would be a very good friend. And I think that is very sad, because we did have a lot in common, but it's just something that I couldn't over look.
At first I tried to justify her thoughts, beliefs or whatever you want to call it, by saying, " well she's not very diverse in her surroundings", or "she hasn't been exposed to [black] people very much," but the more I thought about it, the more I realized that this was bullshit. This is the year 2005. She is the way she because that is how she wants to be.
As I stated to her, I just hope that one day, she realizes that she is not better than any person in any way, but that her closed mindedness makes her look very ignorant.
On one hand I'm very sad to see the friendship end, but on the other, I'm glad that I separated myself from her, because it's not something that I want any myself or my daughter to be exposed to.
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Ruth said...
Some people come and go out of our lives to teach us things we need to know at some point in time. Some stay for a while and become close friends. Those that stay beside us and support us, through thick and thin, become our REAL friends. The others are just fair weather friends and acquaintences. Treasure your REAL friends because they are more precious than gold. If a person makes you uncomfortable by saying and doing things that are against your values, it's time for you to re-evaluate your relationship with that person. If you decide it's not worth going through this time and time again, it's time to let that relationship go. {The disappointment and hurt goes away eventually.} (I moved this comment so it makes more sense.)
Surround yourself with people you enjoy being with and that make you happy to see them. Life's too short to put up with someone who is a drag on you just because you don't want to hurt their feelings. Are they considering YOUR feelings? Find a way to cut the ties to these kind of people and be a happier person.
1:32 PM
Hey chica, it is I. ; ) I was reading your recent entry here. I empathize with your sadness, because it's like you're being forced to end something that could have been so wonderful. But you had to do what you felt you had to do for your life to be enriched. And that's okay too. I am a firm believer in having high expectations with friends. Strictly the best. I mean, if you are going to invest your time into something, might as well be something that is going to gain you lots of interest and nothing less. It just has to be that way. It's all good Jules, you know I am here for you too! besos~
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