I've decided to do a little bit of personal revamping to myself. I'm working on making myself a better person. I've notice that alot of people, just assume that they are good people, and what, of course, they do is the right way, but they don't ever stop to think about the things or actions they do, that might negatively affect others. Most people are so concerned about what the other person said to make them angry or what the other person did, or how this person reacted to that and never really stop to think about what they, themselves did to contribute to the situation. I've realized that there are alot of little things that people can do to make themselves and others around them much happier. SOOOO..... here are the steps that I'm going to TRY and take, to make myself a "Better" person.
1. Be a Good Listener
I've noticed about myself, that sometimes when people are talking, I'm hearing what they are saying, but not really listening... a lot of the time I'm planning what I'm going to say once they stop talking ...
2. Be Interested ... Not Interesting
Ever had that person you're talking to, just keep going on and on about themselves, and your just like... "shut up, I'm tired of hearing about you"....Then I started thinking about it, How many times have I talked about my weekend, Steven, or MariElena, and the person I was talking to was thiking just the same thing. So I'm going to start listening more and being more interactive in conversations I'm having with others... To be more interested in what they are saying, not trying to be more interesting by trying to talk about myself also.
3. Don't be Judgemental
This is probably going to be the hardest thing for me to do. I think this is the hardest thing for most people to do. We all have our "good" behaviors, and our "bad" behaviors. I'm going to try and forget the concepts of right and wrong ... I'm going to look at it as, "It's just different from what I would do". People aren't Right or Wrong, People just are. I think that being judgemental cuts you off from building meaningful relationships with other. It just brings you down and wastes time. I'm not perfect, so I shouldn't expect others to be either.
These are the first few things that I am going to try and work on...There are much more things I want to work on... But one step at a time... These things are going to be hard enough... lol. I'm learning that you can't control how others react to or handle situations, but you can control how YOU react to and how YOU handle those same situations.
WISH ME LUCK!
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Julia,
Although I don't know you very well, (only through our e-mails, you sound like a very sweet, very nice and considerate person. Folks are lucky to have you as a friend. Those things that you are planning to do can make the world a better place to live if everyone else thought like you do.
If you're interested, I'd like to recommend a couple of books by Stephen Covey called "First Things First" "Seven Habits of Highly Effective Families". If you've never read his work, I think it can help you along the way to put everything in its proper perspective. He explains that the important things to YOU come first and foremost - like family, close friends,etc. A good way to visualize this is to have some rocks around - from large to small, sand and water, and an empty large gallon pickle jar. The large rocks will be labeled with the most important things (husband,daughter,parents,siblings, job) to the small rocks being labeled with the items/things that are least important to you but affect your life. Then, fit all the rocks into the jar. Then add the sand, which is the stuff you have to do everyday to maintain your lifestyle and the water being the things you'd like to do when you have time. If you add the water and the sand first, you won't have room for the important stuff (rocks). Play with this a little while and see what this reveals to you. - Ruth
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